Tag Archives: codependency
FMM 9 5 2025 Lively up Yourself!
“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore. When you grow up in the church, it goes without saying that you soon learn that doing unto others, caring for the least among us, is done without thinking. […]
FMM 6 27 2025 No Excuses!
“It doesn’t take a lot of strength to hang on. It takes a lot of strength to let go.” ~ J. C. Watts. One of the messages that was drilled into me as a child, was to never give up. There were any number of rhymes or quotes to instill perseverance. ‘If at first you […]
FMM 12 27 24 Free Spirits
“Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds!” ~ Marcus Mosiah Garvey. Early in my marriage a pattern was set, one which assigned me to the role of mediator, the one who kept her tongue to keep the peace. It was almost a role of subservience, which is one I disapprove […]
FMM 10 20 2023 Take a Breath, Nurse
“I’m like a recovering perfectionist. For me it’s one day at a time.” ~ Brene Brown. I don’t know when I first heard the word ‘codependent’. It certainly wasn’t a term when we were in nursing school. When I did read about it, I recognized myself in the description. Part of it was the need […]
FMM 4 14 2023 What If?
“Of all men’s miseries the bitterest is this: to know so much and to have control over nothing.” ~ Herodotus. I used to be an excellent worrier. I somehow felt that if I imagined all of the possible bad outcomes that could happen, then they wouldn’t happen. It would be arrogance on my part (I […]
FMM 1 17 20 Down to Zero
“I’m like a recovering perfectionist. For me it’s one day at a time.” ~ Brene Brown. When one of my kids was in kindergarten or first grade, he got super frustrated doing his homework. It appeared to be something simple – he was to draw a picture of a dinosaur. But he was in tears, […]
FMM 3 31 17 Love the One you’re With
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”~Buddha. They say that if you go to sleep with a champagne cork under your pillow, you will dream of your future husband. In my case it was true, but I may have cheated a bit. The night that I placed […]
FMM 9 23 16 Find your own Voice
“Children go where they find sincerity and authenticity.” ~Eric Cantona. They say confession is good for the soul. I don’t know if I ever admitted to one of my childhood crimes. My mother was quite an intimidating person, and at the time I found it far easier to deny, deny, deny, than to admit it […]
FMM 12 25 15 YDHTBP
“You can’t always get what you want…. but you just might find, you get what you need”~ Mick Jagger and Keith Richards. My mother invented text speak. Way before there were mobile phones she used innovation and efficiency to create her own set of shorthand terms, ways to get more words into a small space. […]
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